The same goes for women. For instance, it doesn't mean a girl standing in a certain body posture, speaking in a lower-pitched tone, masculine qualities and movements of their hands, a girl saying “blue” is her favorite color, likes to play with action figures or that her job is in construction work or that she loves to dance, cuddle or kiss another girl, sleep with the girl in the same bed (because that can be done nonsexually too), having emotional and/or romantic attractions, send love letters and thoughtful poems, taking baths or two women living together for life. All that is NOT HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT "LESBIAN".
In the bible, God said being a homosexual SPECIFICALLY means a man HAVING SEX with another man (same rule applies to women). That IS ALL God focused on, period. If you read the bible closely, you would know. Yes, today’s definition of “homosexuality” is totally messed up and because of this, everyone became very confused. They had decided to ignore God’s true definition of homosexuality from ancient times (which includes sex/lust only), and make up their very own. As a result, today's "updated version" defining homosexuality (after thousands of years later) has changed so much that people demanded a "new label" to incorporate all these (false) "additional features" of homosexuality and named it "Gay" and "Lesbian". I now realize these two "modern phrases" are invalid in the eyes of the Lord. In fact, these so-called terms were coined less than two hundred years ago (in the year 1890 to be exact; and wasn't even put to "real" usage until approximately the 1970's to mean "something else"). So we have to remember, once again, that only God (and Jesus Christ) Himself had strictly coined the term "Homosexuality." Indeed, that is THE ONLY term He uses, period.
But, mankind had coined the term "Gay." Because of this as a result, "gayness and lesbianism" has extended to many, many other things including touching, kissing, holding, certain body movements, voice tones, style of clothing/attire, hobbies, who you live with, jobs and occupations, and even slang phrases. For example, Jack says to Jill, "The lifeguard told us to swim in shallow waters today because of the red flag. I think its a good idea; so I'm only going up to my knees." Jill sarcastically responds back saying, "Oh, don't be sooooo gay!" Jack therefore feels unnecessarily threatened, hurt and insecure (over nothing). Obviously, in this context, "gay" actually just means being "uncool/nerdy." Sadly, people have forgotten what “gay” truly means, and that’s a shame!
Homosexuality: Once originally an action verb, has now become [for some weird reason] further extended to a noun, pronoun, adjective, adverb, irregular verb, preposition, conjunction, interjection, superlative, and even a predicate nominative. "Gay" is also used in informal conversations (as illustrated above) which, sadly, has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuality. So yes in other words, unfortunately (and ironically), we are severely limiting ourselves; not God. In fact, I bet He is looking down at us and laughing Himself silly.
There is another thing I want to discuss... It now makes perfect sense why God condemns male homosexuality, but THIS VERY SAME GOD has absolutely no problem with same-sex love, intimacy and commitment. For instance, two men openly expressed their intense love for each other (saying that their "love" even surpasses that of women!!), kissed, wept together, and on top of all that, the men declared their soulmate bond!! (remember the David-Jonathan story). God even wanted that recorded in the bible and said nothing negative about this. It also makes perfect sense why God condemns female homosexuality, but THIS VERY SAME GOD has absolutely no problem with two women making life vows to each other (or a very serious commitment), even using verses similar in traditional weddings!! (remember the Naomi-Ruth story). In fact, these two events were portrayed in a very positive light. It also makes perfect sense why God condemns homosexuality, but THIS VERY SAME GOD is absolutely silent about same-sex marriages (you can scan from the beginning of Genesis to the end of Revelation, and not see even a single same-sex marriage mentioned). And guess what?? That also goes for almost virtually everything else. But, on here, I'll list just the basics:
You can scan from the beginning of Genesis to the end of Revelation (in the bible), and not see any rule whatsoever forbidding same-sex hand holding.
You can scan from the beginning of Genesis to the end of Revelation (in the bible), and not see any rule whatsoever forbidding same-sex kissing.
You can scan from the beginning of Genesis to the end of Revelation (in the bible), and not see any rule whatsoever forbidding same-sex touching.
In other words, you can scan from the beginning of Genesis to the end of Revelation (in the bible), and not see any rule whatsoever forbidding romantic same-sex activities (of virtually all kinds; you name it). It doesn't even bother Him, and He is perfectly fine with it. How can this be? Let me explain. First of all, God knows perfectly well that touching/hand-holding/kissing between angels, humans or other forms of intelligent life in the universe are ordinary means of communication (as old as time) that can be carried out in different meanings in different contexts (not just only in the sexual dimension). That is the key phrase here. In DIFFERENT MEANINGS within DIFFERENT CONTEXTS. So therefore, same-sex touching, kissing & hand-holding doesn't always necessarily mean sexual.
Second of all, God knows perfectly well that a person can "fall in love" with another person of the same gender (nonsexually). Yes, God is very aware of the fact there are different kinds of love, and wants us to know that romantic love need not be accompanied by erotic love.
There is a difference between:
1.) platonic love (simply loving & affectionate feelings only)
2.) erotic love (mostly characterized by sex, lust & erotica)
3.) erotic romantic love (romantic loving/affectionate feelings plus sex, lust/erotica)
4.) platonic romantic love (romantic loving and affectionate feelings without sex/lust/erotica)
Number (4) is the "love" that society has long forgotten. And that is called romantic friendship. Although the actual phrase looks like an oxymoron, it is actually possible to have platonic & romantic feelings simultaneously. Yes, I can actually fall in love with another woman (and love her very passionately), the same as with a boyfriend or husband, just without the "sex/lust/erotica” element. In a sense, (since the sex is left out of the equation) it’d give us more “space and room”, in making our romantic love/intimate Friendship much stronger and more intense. In fact, my love for her will very easily surpass the love of men (even though it isn’t sexual). Unfortunately this concept is very hard to understand... for most people. Now, you can see why God does not forbid (romantic) same-sex love (because "falling in love" can be nonerotic, and that a 'passionate love' doesn't always necessarily mean 'sexual love').
Third of all, God does not forbid same-sex marriages and lifelong same-sex unions. In fact, in the bible He loves it and blesses those who practice this (rare) third way of life. I'm also an extremely strong advocate and supporter of same-sex marriages/unions (without the sexual aspect), and I believe it should be legally recognized and respected very much; in exactly the same way like traditional marriages are. I'll use women as an example (because this rare phenomenon is much more common with them). Remember, a woman can actually "marry" another woman, put her "first" (as a significant other), do all the stuff together as a couple (shop, bathe, eat and sleep together, even adopt and raise children if they wanted), also nurture each other with all the care and affection, etc (i.e. Boston marriages) All this can be done nonsexually, and women have done this in the past many times. This very same thing can apply to men as well. God does not forbid this. As long as the same-sex couple are not sexually involved (and not lusting after one another), NOTHING IS WRONG with this kind of lifestyle in God's eyes. So what I'm trying to say is that God does not forbid same-sex marriages and lifelong same-sex unions. But, He does forbid homosexuality. So we can arrive at the logical conclusion that He also forbids "same-sex HOMOSEXUAL marriages and lifelong same-sex HOMOSEXUAL unions." There is a particular (and huge) distinction between the two.
Lastly, I also experienced another important paradigm shift regarding orientations. Since there is nothing sexual about romantic friendships/Boston marriages, it doesn't belong in the sexual orientation category. But still, this nonsexual institution is too big and important; it needs some kind of a category to fall into. And there is one. In fact, it belongs in the "affectional orientation" category. Yes, that's where I belong. This is a 'real term', I didn't make this up. It is based on the perspective that one's orientation is defined by whom one is predisposed to fall in love with (emotionally and romantically), sex not really playing a part in the attraction. Now I realize orientations are not just limited to the "sexual" category, and that there are actually TWO different kinds of orientations; not just one.
As you can see, Romantic Friendship & Boston Marriage are in perfect accordance (and in perfect harmony) with biblical scriptures!
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