Memorable Blog Quotes

While our sex lives have ballooned in the last hundred years, our friendships have grown stunted. ("So Are You Two Together?" June-July 2001 Article)

Ninny Threadgoode: "I found out what the secret to life is: friends. Best friends." (Fried Green Tomatoes)

In ancient times Friendship was seen as the "happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue." (Friendship Commitment Ceremony)

Did you know that the *dictionary definition* of Friendship in 1755 was “the highest form of intimacy”? (Friendship Commitment Ceremony)

Why does Yahoo list nearly one hundred sites on gay history but no sites on the history of friendship? (The Eternal Debate/Article 3)

No, it's not that kind of 'girl-on-girl action'. A girl crush is where you meet a woman whose sense of style or brilliant achievements or personal charisma makes you adore and worship her. (Anatomy Of A Girl Crush)

Orientations are not just limited to the "sexual" category. (Revelations II: Paradigm Shift)

Some people are married to "Jesus" (nuns and priests), some are married to their "spouses" (husbands/wives), some are married to their "jobs" (workaholics), but very few are married (or willing to marry) their "Friend." (Friendship Commitment Ceremony)

It's the what-ifs that drive many women away from closeness with each other. ("So Are You Two Together?" June-July 2001 Article)

One married woman, called Lisa, says: "If I knew I could trust a friendship with a woman — that there was a way of making a friendship into a bona fide, future-oriented relationship — I would rather have that than be married." ("So Are You Two Together?" June-July 2001 Article)

Prosecutor Percy: Why did you go with Idgie Threadgoode?
Judge: Answer the question Mrs. Bennett.
Ruth: Because she... she's the best Friend I ever had, and I love her.
(Fried Green Tomatoes)

Written by 27-year-old Zoe Zolbrod, it celebrated the passion that flashes up between women, even when they are both straight: ... "and in knowing them I would feel a rush of power and possibility, of total self, that seemed much more real to me than heterolove," Zolbrod wrote. When she met her friend V, "it was like finding the person you think you'll marry." The two moved in together. They took care of each other, became family, called each other "my love" and "my roommate" interchangeably. ("So Are You Two Together?" June-July 2001 Article)

The expectation that all “serious love relationships” should be sexual is a patriarchal notion. (Boston Marriage Definition website)

...And I understand now how precious and rare it is to feel that close to someone who isn’t also a sexual partner. (Dr.Dennison, creator of "Smart At Love" website)

...Yet in fact the passage is evidence of a belief that was once widely held in English-speaking countries but has now been largely forgotten: that romantic love need not be accompanied by erotic love. (The Eternal Debate/Article 3)

Women have been connecting in passionate friendships since the birth of our species. (Xena & Gabrielle: A Classic Revisitation Of The Romantic Friendship)

Perfectly respectable Victorian women wrote to each other in terms such as these: ‘I hope for you so much, and feel so eager for you… that the expectation once more to see your face again, makes me feel hot and feverish.’ They recorded the ‘furnace blast’ of their ‘passionate attachments’ to each other... In the nineteenth century, these sentiments were so respectable that surviving relatives often published them in elegies.... (Romantic Friendship from Wikipedia)

Bates referred to Coman as her "Joy of Life" and wrote many poems about their love. Only a few years before her death, she wrote to a friend, "So much of me died with Katharine Coman that I'm sometimes not quite sure whether I'm alive or not." (Prominent Women in Boston Marriages)

Idgie Threadgoode: "They may put "Miss" on my tombstone but as far as I am concerned I haven't missed a thing." (Fried Green Tomatoes)

In the ideal Victorian romantic friendship, although two friends could kiss, fondle each other, and hold one another all night long in sleep, there was no sex. (Xena & Gabrielle: A Classic Revisitation Of The Romantic Friendship)

These "romantic friendships" were not only common, but were considered quite normal, even "sweet", and in some instances, uplifting. (Xena & Gabrielle: A Classic Revisitation Of The Romantic Friendship)

This kind of unique relationship is my highest truth, my highest hope, my grandest dream, and my grandest vision. (A New Hope)

Women are 'brainwashed' to prefer men, to compete with other women for male recognition and love, to think of women as 'second best.' (The Psychology With Which Women Regard Other Women)

'Lesbianism' is merely a symbol of a wider taboo on female loyalty and allegiances of all kinds. (The Psychology With Which Women Regard Other Women)

Romantic friendship is renamed gay love or lesbianism because our modern notions of friendship do not allow for the possibility of friends embracing romantic activities. (The Eternal Debate/Article 3)

We have ceased to believe that it is possible for a man to deeply love another man, unless that love is sexually based. (The Eternal Debate/Article 3)

The price paid for the fear of men’s intimacy is high –– for all males, not just those who yearn for each other sexually. (Picturing Men)

"Why do adolescent boys often leave empty seats between each other when they go to the movies?" (Empty Seats)

There was a time in America when two men pictured with their arms wrapped around each other, or perhaps holding hands, weren't necessarily seen as sexually involved—a time when such gestures could be seen simply as those of intimate friendship rather than homoeroticism. (Picturing Men)

Though I'm proud to call you "Chocolate Bear," the crowd will always talk and stare. (Guy Love)

Examples of pre-modern standards of physical contact in the Gospels include John 13:23: "One of his disciples, whom Jesus loved, was lying close to the breast of Jesus." (Biblical Examples)

“Now it came about when [David] had finished speaking to Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself.” Then they kissed each other and wept together. (Biblical Examples)

People’s interpretation of physical contact became extraordinarily ‘privatized and sexualized,’ so that all types of touching, kissing, and holding were seen as sexual foreplay rather than accepted as ordinary means of communication that carried different meanings in different contexts... (Romantic Friendship from Wikipedia)

I have a dream that perhaps homosexuality will be a thing of the past, and that we all should adopt the prim, proper attitudes of the Victorian Era once again (and bring it back 21st century-style)!!!
(I Have A Dream)

After reading my own journal/blog from beginning to end, I found myself staring at the computer screen for a very long time, became emotional, speechless and finally, tears spilled down my cheeks. That is because I slowly came to the realization this “love” goes beyond words; goes beyond categories and labels, and goes beyond what any piece of paper can declare. Yes, the "love" I'm talking about really has no name... (Blog Author)